I was once asked to give a talk on how men can support women in the tech industry. At first I was uncomfortable with the idea: My thoughts turned to images of me clicking through a deck and reading off bullets of things you shouldn’t do that I probably did myself at some point before someone undertook the effort required to get me to stop. I hated the idea of standing at the front of a room and implying there’s something I get that maybe the men I’d be speaking to don’t.